Monday
morning…blues at work, you wake up feeling lousy. Hurry,
scurry and you finally make it to office half an hour late!
You
just seem to be settling down when you are summoned. Your boss
wants you to do the project no one else wants and there’s
no way out of it. This was the last thing you wanted to happen,
“I’m just beginning to settle down” you groan.
It gets to you, and it’s no good complaining!
Everyone hates unwelcome change, especially when it’s foisted
upon them without warning.
Ways
to cope
•
Checkmate
change
Look for opportunities within change. Think of ways you can benefit
from it- this may help you feel better! Remember that change-
even unwelcome change- often throws up new opportunities.
Influencing change to benefit you is what you must negotiate.
The change must mean a personal win, a shift to a higher status,
better conditions or an opportunity to be upwardly mobile. Only
then can you enjoy change.
•
Learning
the ropes
It’s best to get a move on, once you are clear about what
the change will be. Start working on your part of the deal. Ask
for help from someone who knows the facts. If you a shifting to
a new place, read up about it.
•
Minding
change
Don’t keep moaning about the change, when there’s no
way out. If the change is truly inevitable, accept it! Sometimes
it’s as simple as changing you viewpoint. Instead of fighting
change, learn to see it as a new adventure and you will find half
the battle won! Settling down may be unsettling, but isn’t
living all about adaptation and the like?
•
Give
yourself room
It is natural to feel apprehensive or even worried and uncertain
about change. Talks with people who can give you their advice
and support will do you good. Turn your attention for a while
to activities not related to change- you are likely to find more
stability there. Tell it like it is to folks at home, the support
you get from them will definitely keep you in good stead.
•
Empathy
goes a long way
Change could be difficult for other too, so if you have others
in the same situation try to create an atmosphere of calm and
good humour. Try not to pass on dire predictions and untrue reports.
• A
non-negotiable case
If you cannot reconcile with the change, it’s best to opt
out of the situation. When there are too many compromises to make,
and the deal does not benefit you in any way, then you may put
your foot down and say you can’t. It may mean resigning a
job, or saying no to a transfer.
Change will continue to make its appearance; it’s learning
to live with it that finally counts. Remember- Change can never
be passé!
Embrace
change
Everyone hates unwelcome change, especially when it’s foisted
upon them without warning.